ow do you tell people you are getting a divorce? AND that you're happy? Especially in a culture where divorce is equated with the loss of eternity?
I guess you do it like this: "Randal and I are getting a divorce. Everyone is happier. Please be happy with me. Do not offer condolences. If I tell you you don't have to be sorry, then don't be. If I'm sad or need help, I'll let you know. Otherwise, I'm good. I'm better than good. I'm at peace."
And it seems that some people are unsure if I'll want to hear from them during this time. I always want to hear from you. You can ask me anything. Seriously. You really can ask me anything. If I don't want to answer it, I'll tell you and I promise not to be offended (I'm pretty hard to offend anyway), if you'll do the same.
And you should know also, there was no infidelity, physical abuse, or anything else that might make it one person's fault or the other. Randal and I are still friends.